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Haystacks & Starry Nights: A Life Lesson from Van Gogh

Brian Hicks - Monday, August 23, 2010
Today's Daily DifferenceMaker...
The Tinderbox Tapes club members receive a Daily DifferenceMaker (DDM) every morning. This one originally went out a couple of months ago. While on the road recently, I was in a pinch for a DDM to send one morning and decided to recycle one. As I searched my archive, I came across this one and it spoke to me in a new way. Yes, people, I astounded myself today! Hope this one speaks to you, too.


"Great things are done by a series of small things brought together."

Vincent van Gogh (1853-1890)
Dutch Painter & hell with a razor blade
 

You'll recall he didn't like his ear; You've probably heard Don McLean sing about him; You've certainly seen the "swirly" stars.
You also may have noticed he died at 37.

Van Gogh was an interesting character.

He only painted for 10 years.

He grew up a preacher's kid, living in mining communities as his father preached to the poor, and never pursued any significant artistic endeavors as a child.

While he did work for an art dealer for a time, he eventually became a preacher like his father.

It was his brother, Theo, who encouraged him to paint. Both van Gogh AND his parents thought Theo was nuts, but he pushed Vincent anyway.

So in 1880, Vincent gave up preaching and began to paint.

And then...

It appeared Vincent & his parents were right!
No one was buying his paintings.

Regardless, Vincent kept at it.

Despite suffering mental illness, epilepsy, a myriad of other illnesses - and absolutely zero success in the marketplace - van Gogh became a prolific painter over 10 years.

Right up until he took his own life.

Wow, Brian. Thanks for the Buzzkill. On Monday.

Stay with me, please.

Van Gogh created a new world for himself.

He didn't begin to paint as a first career; He wasn't a prodigy; He didn't even have confidence in himself! If not for his brother, Vincent would likely have never picked up a brush.

Despite his late start, mental & physical illness, Vincent van Gogh ended up painting 3 of the top 10 most expensive paintings of all time.
That's more than any other individual artist, and the 3 paintings total over $200 million! JUST THOSE THREE! I'm sure someone knows the value of his entire collection, but I couldn't find it. Suffice it to say, it must be worth a LOT of dollars!

Yet he died a "failure."

Sometimes the new world you create won't pay economically until long after you're gone.
But it won't pay today, tomorrow or EVER if you don't do the small things that can be brought together to form something great.

Remember, you don't have to invent the light bulb to astound yourself; You simply have to do what you're capable of doing.

Van Gogh was capable of painting potato eaters, sunflowers, haystacks, starry nights, even himself;
So whether they sold or not, he continued to paint them.

It must have seemed small at the time, sitting in a field alone, staring at hay, filled with doubt, knowing no one was buying.
And yet, he did it - every day - because it was the one thing he was capable of doing.

Are you capable of doing a small thing?
How about a series of small things?
When you put those small things together, what kind of new world will you create?

Do something small, something you're capable of doing, as you start this week - a call, an email, a household chore, a single flower - and you'll Astound Yourself Today!

Brian

The Motivational Wisdom of Rob Thomas

Brian Hicks - Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Today's Daily DifferenceMaker...

"And maybe someday
We'll figure all this out;
We'll put an end to all our doubt;
Try to find a way to make things better now,
and
Maybe someday we'll live our lives out loud;
We'll be better off somehow,
Someday..."

Rob Thomas (b. 1972)
American Rock Singer/Songwriter



I'm a Rob Thomas fan. Have been since Matchbox Twenty. I'm not the rabid, screaming, ringtone, screensaver, wallpaper, t-shirt, bedroom poster, Facebook stalker kind of fan. (I mean, I USED to be until I turned 40, right?) I don't even follow him on twitter, but when I hear one of his songs on the radio - usually a year after its release, because that's when it comes on the adult easy listening station (Can I get a middle-aged shout out?) - I always find myself singing along.

"Someday" is my current favorite.
If you haven't seen it, you should
watch the video.

The message, co-authored by Thomas & Blake "Shy" Carter, is basically that you should hang in there because there's hope: Someday we'll figure all this out. Someday we'll create our new world. You see in the video that the new world is depicted personally and globally. It's true, you can't create a new world for yourself & your family without creating a new world period. Like Rob sings,"You could shine a little light on everything around you. Man, it's good to be someone."

You can get in trouble trying to speak for a songwriter, but art speaks to everyone in their own way, so I'll take a chance. Here's my take...

So many lines of this song start with the phrase,"You can..." You have a choice about what your new world will look like; You have a choice about whether to go; whether to start all over again; whether to hide; whether to carry on when all you want to do is cry. You can... or not. It's your new world, so it's your call. But here's where I have a little secret that Mr. Thomas & Mr. Carter don't explicitly share:

"Someday" is TODAY!

TODAY you'll choose to create that new world for yourself & your family.
TODAY you'll find a way to carry on when all you want to do is cry.
TODAY you'll put an end to all your doubt.
TODAY you'll notice just how good it can get.

TODAY you'll be better off somehow because you'll do ONE THING to move toward that new world.


You'll do all that today,
not because it's easy; not because it's safe; not because it's what someone else expects.


You'll do it today because you're capable of doing it today.
Just today.
Just this one day.

I know you doubt yourself and your future and your VISA limit and your falling 401(k) balance and all the rest of it. But I also know that I know when you do what you're capable of doing TODAY, you'll "figure all this out" and "be better off somehow" tomorrow.

See, "Someday" is closer than you think.

You'll live out loud, shine your light on everything around you, and be better off somehow when you choose to Astound Yourself Today!

Brian

Are You Ready?

Brian Hicks - Friday, May 29, 2009

Not sure why - maybe it's summer; maybe it's listening to Kenny Chesney in the Jeep lately - but it seems all my analogies & stories with audiences these days are about boats & water, and today's entry is no exception...

When it comes to swimming, there are two kinds of people in the world: Pool People and River People.

"River People" actually refers to those who will swim in any natural body of water where:
A. You may not be able to see the bottom; and/or
B. There's at least a statistical possibility something could eat you.

I am not a River People.

Perhaps that's because I saw Jaws waaaay too early in life, though I didn't see it at the theater. I was only 6 years old when it premiered. Instead, I saw it a few years later when I spent one Friday night at my friend Jason's house. Jason had failed 3 grades en route to junior high, his parents were divorced, he smoked Marlboros & had HBO... IN HIS ROOM!

Where else would the straight-A student, son of a preacher with no cable in his house watch Jaws at 2am? Of course, some sins live with you for the rest of your life, and from that day on, I've been a Pool Person.

So it was with great trepidation that I found myself standing on a sandbar off the coast of Grand Cayman Island, chin deep in the crystal clear waters of the Caribbean. How did this happen? This isn't a pool. It's an ocean, for crying out loud... and I'M STANDING IN IT! Holding a sting ray... IN MY ACTUAL HANDS!!! And feeding them squid, which they swim right up & take directly from my hands!! This is CRI-ZAZY COOL!!!

It took about 30 minutes to arrive at Sting Ray City, as this spot is known, and although the boat ride was everything you'd expect from a catamaran cruise in the Caribbean, the captain's question at the outset of the trip - "Who's going to snorkel?" - was weighing heavily on my mind.

My ever-supportive wife said she'd stay on the boat with me if I chose that route. After all, if you're lucky enough to spend the day on a yacht in the Caribbean, you're lucky enough, right?

And yet, how could I pass up the chance to feed sting rays - to hold sting rays - not at some aquarium, but actually standing in the middle of the ocean?!? Did I believe what I talk about from the stage? Did I truly believe my favorite quote, "Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away"?

So as we approached the sandbar - with dozens of sting rays swimming among even more tourists - and our guide began handing out masks & fins to the members of our group, I was having that whole "Man up" discussion with myself. I'm even singing Tim McGraw songs about living like you were dying. At this point, I cannot BELIEVE this has become an existential debate! I finally decided to take the plunge - literally - and as everyone began to enter the water, my wife looked at me and asked, "Are you ready?"

It's a simple question, really.
Are you ready?
Requires a simple answer: Yes or no.

Simple questions and simple answers. That's what life comes down to, isn't it?

Will you marry me? Should I take the job? Do you love me? Can we get a dog? Will you move to California with me? Are you ready to be a daddy?

You remember playing hide and seek as a kid? Whoever was "it" would count to 50 or 100 or something. Then they'd yell that phrase every kid seems to intuitively know to shout as they begin their search, "Ready or not, here I come!"

Have you noticed that life works the same way? Opportunities and changes are coming, whether we're ready or not.

It’s the young woman standing at the back of the church on her father’s arm when he asks, “Are you ready?” It’s the child standing backstage as the curtain goes up, his teacher inquiring, “Are you ready?” And it's you and me as we take that first step in the direction of our dreams.

Are you ready? Probably not. Not REALLY ready, anyway. And why do we put so much stock in that?

I think we often fail to take that step toward our hopes & dreams because:
A. We may not be able to see the bottom; and/or
B. There's at least a statistical possibility something could eat us.

And I hate to break it to you, but it's ALWAYS going to be that way! We can't change it. All we can do is decide what we're going to do about it. Will we sit safely on the boat or jump in with both feet? We can never truly know what will happen when we jump in the water. We can guess. We can determine a desired outcome & try to make that a reality, but in the end, we can never know for a fact what will happen when we hit the water.

But just as we can never know what will happen when we jump in, we most certainly know what will happen if we don't.

We only get one shot at this earthly existence. Why would we settle for safe when the most amazing experiences are shouting, “Ready or not, here I come!”

Are you ready?

Jump in anyway. You just might astound yourself today…

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Astound Yourself Today

Brian Hicks - Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Welcome to my new blog at the online home of Brian Hicks, The Tinderbox Tapes, and the "Astound Yourself Today™" Nation! I'm glad you stopped by.

My plan is to make this a weekly endeavor, so be sure to sign up for the mailing list & we'll shoot you a quick note when the blog is updated. You'll also be in the loop for books, audio programs & upcoming events.

TODAY'S TOPIC: Astound Yourself Today™

"If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves."

Thomas Edison spoke those words. And as profound as they are when you HEAR them, imagine how much MORE profound they are when you LIVE them.

My AYT keynote (Yes. I just created my own acronym. It's a WHOLE lot easier to type "AYT" than "Astound Yourself Today™," right?) has taken on a life of it's own and is quickly becoming a pop culture phenomenon!

Yeah, you're right... That's only true in my head.

But still, I'm excited about the response I've been getting around the country. People are waking up to the fact that you really CAN dream of creating a new world and then GO DO IT! And the best part is, you don't have to do anything over-the-top, out-of-this-world extraordinary. You simply do what you're capable of doing.
If it worked for Thomas Edison, it will surely work for you, right?

In his book, Innovate Like Edison, Michael Gelb points out that:

"The horse was still the fastest means of transportation when Edison was a child, growing up in Ohio, but in the course of his life railways were introduced, then automobiles, submarines, airplanes, helicopters & rockets. Edison witnessed the introduction of blue jeans, Coca Cola, jazz, Corn Flakes, the pop-up toaster & Mickey Mouse. While he was developing world-changing inventions, other innovators brought forth the typewriter, telephone, radio, x-rays & penicillin.

Charles Darwin, Sigmund Freud, Mohandas Gandhi, Marie Curie & Albert Einstein were among his most extraordinary contemporaries.

Of course, when Edison was born, candles, torches & gas lamps were the only sources of light for homes, public buildings & streets. If you wanted to hear a speech or musical performance, you had to be present when it was delivered. And the only “moving pictures” were the ones people conjured up in their heads.

But Thomas Edison’s imagination changed all that.
 
He dreamed of a new world, and then he created it."

I contend that we all dream of creating a new world - some on par with Edison or Gandhi or Lincoln or Mother Theresa or Martin Luther King, Jr.; but most of us simply dream of creating a new world for ourselves and our family. That's what America is all about.

The Astound Yourself Today™ keynote will have you imagining that new world all over again and leave you with the surprisingly simple secret for creating that very world.

It's also the first lesson you'll receive when you subscribe to The Tinderbox Tapes monthly audio series.

Stay tuned, AYT Nation! The launch sequence has been initiated. No turning back now...

 

 

 

 

December 2008 - "When the 'new' wears off"

Brian Hicks - Friday, December 26, 2008
I swear, that sounds like a Country song - "And debuting at #9 on the countdown, George Jones' new hit single, 'When The New Wears Off.'"

ANYWAY...

It's a couple of days after Christmas and I'm witnessing firsthand what happens "when the new wears off".

I have 3 boys, ages 11, 7 & 5... which means my house smells like the men's room at the local park, but I digress...

You see, they loaded up on the usual Christmas take for boys their age: Video games & accessories and various action figures - mostly of the Star Wars variety. Personally, I was most excited for them to open the steering wheels (used to play their driving games on the Nintendo Wii) and the light sabers (also used on the Wii for their Star Wars games). Funny thing abut those accessories, though. You see, the boys almost instantly complained that their new toys weren't as cool as they thought they'd be.

This is to be somewhat expected. After all, sometimes those kinds of things just get in the way. They're too cumbersome & make it harder to play the game effectively. I certainly get that, so no harm/no foul in my book. No need for lectures about the virtues of being grateful & no discussions of how we were lucky to get a pack of Juicy Fruit when I was their age.

No need to verbally assault them with stories of how their uncle & I would anxiously await the Sears catalogue and find the ONE THING we wanted for Christmas & then wait ever so impatiently for something like 60 days for the big event, never once asking for anything during that time & praying that Santa would come through. No need to contrast that experience with their own, pointing out that they get a new toy or game WEEKLY & that it's almost reached the point that Christmas is simply the day you get a few more things than you get on a typical day.

No need to mention that, although we celebrate "The Reason for the Season" in our house, we'd still like the Christmas morning experience to be fun and exciting, and that's becoming increasingly difficult because of the aforementioned.

But then it happened.

All three of them walked into my bedroom & with one voice asked, "Dad? When can we go to Toys R Us and take our gift cards?"

I'm still picking up the pieces of my skull, which exploded almost before they finished speaking. If I had a nickel for every time I uttered the phrase, "Honestly fellas..."

Approximately 48 hours... That's how long it takes for the "new" to wear off. And it occurred to me that adults are the same way, and I'm not talking about how we get tired of that new plasma after the big game is over and we make the mistake of walking into Best Buy a week later... when the NEW models just came in...

I'm talking about our hopes & dreams.

What happens when "the new wears off?" What do you do when things aren't exactly what you expected in the pursuit of your dreams? How do you handle the realization that after the initial thrill comes the daily routine?

One of my heros, and the most famous person you've never heard of, Jim Rohn, says, "You can get all excited about lifting 300 pounds until you get to the gym. Then you need a new excitement." What do you do when the new wears off? How do you maintain your passion, enthusiasm, excitement for your future?

That's what my site, my blog and indeed my career, will seek to discover. I hope you'll sign up to receive updates about new entries and new releases, and I especially hope you'll join The Tinderbox Tapes to receive monthly motivation delivered directly to your door.

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